Topic: Relationship
Who do we depend on when we would face some difficulties in our personal life? Some of us may depend on family members, church councils, friends, and co-workers. It is good to have somebody to help and encourage you when you are lonely, depressed, sad, and happy in your life situation. King Solomon said, “If one falls down, his friend can help him up.” (Ecclesiastes 5:10a NIV.) Is that a reason to have a friend?
Over the past two years, Kelly, my personal assistant, has been one of my best friends while I have been living my life independently. Although she has a limitation of the Personal Assistant Services Program, Kelly has been willing to take the risk to help me to learn how I can live more independently, such as community outing, job seeking, errands, enrolling in college, and more. She has been faithful and willing to trust me to work on our life problems together.
When one of us may have an awful day, we share the problem and give advice to each other to solve issue. Although she considered as my employee, I considered her as my friend and one of God’s family members. In this case, we have experiences with our lives and have a chance to understand our individual character more as we meet each day.
We may not see this kind of friendship from our work environment because our duties are to maintain the business. Nor do we need to take care of our family. People can find friends if they can see beyond somebody’s physical and inner being of character. To have a friendship with the other person is to have willingness to any situation that he or she may have and help him or her out during the circumstance. A friendship should be willing to take risk, to love, to care, and to have faith in the other person. Not only would that person be willing to take these four qualities to find a friend, he or she should be willing to be with you all the time, no matter what is going on in that person’s life.
Even today, some of us may find having a friend difficult. Sometimes, we may find the person is hard to trust. Trusting a friend is very important to have a friendship in our lives. Is he or she willing to take you through some difficult situations and bring you into the light path? Or is he or she not going to go through some situations with you?
If we have friends that can last long, we receive more health into our souls and physical beings. The only way that we would have unhealthy physical and inner being is not having any fellowship with the other people in the community. I have discovered myself in this situation in the past. But I have gained more health to my physical and spiritual life through development of friendship. When I did not have a friend around me at my apartment, it was depressing and lonely. Sometimes, I had a headache of being lonely. I had not much to do around my apartment except look at the four walls of the house. But when I found a friend, my life has totally changed from depression, sadness, and loneliness to happiness and enjoyment. I have a hope that I can go through any situation with the help from my friend.
Anybody can have a friend, no matter what the person looks like, or his or her sex, or religious background, or where the person came from. You could find some friends in home, community, church, school, or workplace. Do you have some friends in your life? To grow physically and in your inner life is to have friends around you.
